Month: September 2006

One favourite Gazal – Tamannaon ke bahalave

Lyrics : Ali Sardar Zafri
 
tamannaon ke bahlave meiN aksar aa hi jaate haiN
kabhi hum chot khaate haIn kabhi hum muskuraate haiN

ham aksar dostoN ki bewafee seh to lete haiN
magar hum jaante haiN dil hamaare TooT jaate haiN

kisi ke saath jab beete huye lamhoN ki yaad aayee
thaki aakhoN meiN askhoN ke sitaare jhilmilaate haiN

ye kaisa istheyaaki deed aur kaisi majboori
kisi ki bazm tak jaa jaa ke hum kyoon laut aate haiN

 
 
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Telling Lies

Johnny, Johnny,

Yes, Papa,

Eating sugar?

No, Papa

Telling lies?

No, Papa

Open your mouth

O Ha! Ha! Ha!

 

We have been listening this poem since our childhood.  Papa is laughing on Johnny’s lies.

Is it good , Papa is appreciating Johnny for his lies ? No , we always learnt, stay with truth,  tell true but no lies.  Despite all these learning ,  we also tell lies.   But why do we tell lies  ????  Do we really need ?

 

A lie is TRUTH until it has been caught.  Yes…  because till that time , we believe each and every piece  of statement . But when truth comes  out,  we  see the stunning lies .  Suddenly, the truth turned out as a bitter lie.

 

We tells lies … and we face lies, in almost every part of life.  In office, in school,  in market and in Home as well.    Everybody around us  is telling lie sometimes somewhere.   Most of the times, we tell, lie to hide the truth. Second most common reason for lying  is to get some benefits from others.  Another very common reason  for lying is to help others.   We lie in one of these respects.

 

We easily forget lies by some stranger ..even they are big in nature.  If we don’t forget them,  we ignore them , they don’t hurt us or our feelings.

 

When I was in Germany,  I happened to meet a Girl at Heidelberg Railway station.  Around 10:00 PM, in winter, I was waiting for my train , which was last for the day to my town.  This Girl came to me , asking for some help. She wanted to contact her friends, as she had to meet them  for going out. She wanted some money change coins to make phone call from public booth.  Looking at an Indian face and alone at Railway station,  I thought of helping her. She introduced herself as an Student , came from Kerala for internship at SAP Manheim and would be going back to Kerala in next 2 months.  She asked for a minor help and I did for her.  Later on , she could not met her friends so she came back to Station , and we spent some 15-20 minutes, before my train.

In this discussion,  she discussed only about her problems, she is facing on short term stay in Germany.  We exchanged our mail ID and Phone numbers,.

But looking at her dress up and style,  I was confused. To  clear my confusion, I logged on internet and made a search on her name. And found some other facts. The girl was a German born , and staying there for more than 20yrs.   So, that was a big lie ……. And truth was reviled.   Later on , we chatted and I gave her several chance to accept the truth, but she was continuously telling me same story.

even knowing this as a lie, I did not mind it much, because I understand,  she cannot tell all about her to any stranger.   Later I told her, I know the truth.

Though , I know, it  was a big lie,  it did not bothered me at all. Because this was told by some person, who was not a dearer to me.

 

But smaller lies by any dearer or nearer may hurt  us very deeply.   All the relations are based on individual trust  on each other.   A small lie can lead to very big misunderstanding.  Till the time  trust exist between each other, we do not think of lies. But once a lie is caught, all the truth becomes suspicious.  And we fee every other thing may be a big lie.  And after this, trust starts diminishing, breaking all the relations.

No . Sometimes,  we know that truth can hurt our  nearer . Hence we try to avoid the truth, thinking to close the matter.  We keep our intentions very pure and try  to save our dearer from unnecessary pain.  But we do not think about the condition, when they come to know the truth.  It is very hard to hide the truth.  And it comes out sooner or later.  And at that time, it hurts more.  And in result , we get more pain to them and face sourness in relationship

 

Once I invited one of my friend for a party at my home.  At the last minute, the friend called me and informed me that he  got some urgent  work at home, and he cannot go out.   Finally , he did not come to my home for Party.  Later , same day I  called him again to talk him, but he was not at home.   Now this was shocking for me. I was not expecting this lie from a friend.  And I felt very-very bad and hurting .   If he had some other program, he should have informed me , rather than creating any false excuse.  Definitely, I would have felt bad on his denial , but not as much as I felt on his lie.   Now ,  I would not believe his reasons for any denial , even if he has genuine reasons.   He might had proper intentions for lying, but that has broken the trust.   Building trust takes very long time, and  rebuilding trust takes even longer.  

He is a good friend of mine, so  I’m trying to forgive him,  but I have seen this behavior several times.  Now I’m confused , what should I do. If I go and ask him,  I’m sure he will tell another lie to me, as to hide his old lies.  But I’m feeling restless ,  as one of my dearer  is betraying me.   Still considering him as a good friend,  

If we really care our nearer and dearer,   why we tell lies to them ? Do we really want to hurt them ?   In a true relationship, we must avoid lying at any point of time.  If the person is understanding ,  he will accept the truth, even if it is harsh.  By lying, we can please others . They will feel happy till the time they don’t know the truth.  And  when they know the truth and feel hurt , we are not much bothered about them.

 

But we are  concerned with feelings of out friends and dears .  Certainly we do not help our dears with any lie. But we give more pain in future.   Rather than pleasing them  for few moments and giving big pain later,  we should tell the truth.   If they feel hurt , we should clarify and help them understanding the truth.   If we really care for someone, we must be truthful to them in any condition, at any point  of time.  If required , clarify and let them know, “I Always Care for you”.

 

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O my Sun

Sun is setting down , with a promise to come again next morning.
Darkness is spreading across everywhere.
Darkness scares me , but it is part  of life.
I want Sun,  and I trust his promise and wait for next morning.
 
Morning comes , my heart is eager to see Sun .
I leave everything in my hand and prepare to welcome him. 
I keep on awaiting,  Sun comes up, but do not show up to me.
He gives songs to bird ,  life to tree,  light to fields  … but darkness to me.
I keep on waiting for my piece of Sun.
I am scared of Dark. Calling him again  and he promise to come next morning .
My eyes starts dreaming of light … I’m going to see next morning , when Sun come.
Though night is dark but  I’m not afraid .. I’ll see sun tomorrow.  He promised me , I will get my piece of light.
And night goes …  I see a ray of light , approaching   towards me.
But again , it goes to field, river, trees and Birds … and I keep on waiting till evening.
Does he forgot to give me light ?  or someone else stolen my light ?
Sun do not follow his own promise ?  why Sun is  upset with me ?
This time, he didn’t even promise  for next time.   And I  left again with my dreams of light.
What happened to my Sun ???  why he is  playing with me ?
My night is getting  very long … world has seen many days in between .  My Sun is still upset with me.
 
One day… to my surprise … Sun light comes to me ..
I am happy,  my Sun is shining again for me.   Living with long darkness, I feel to hold the Sun for always.
I pray him, to stay with me,   I force him to  get around me.   
Sun  smiles  but do not promise anything.   He says, he can stay for me , but need some time to think.
I  accept him to go by evening.  
He want to shine for others.   And he leaves early, making a promise to give some more time next morning.  
 
I trust him…. And I trust him.  But anyhow,   I cannot stop him.  
I know, No one can hold  others, unless other wants to hold himself . 
I’m not very important for Sun, but Sun is precious for me.  I try to become important for him, but cannot.
But I forget, he is Sun.  He is not shining only for me .
 He like to go around  .. how can he stay with me ?    
 
And next morning , Sun comes in Sky, shining with smile. 
Before the ray reaches me,  he again turn his face.  
Maybe,  he  found some others , who need the light .
Or  Maybe Sun is happy with them.
Bird sings song for him, River plays pleasing music for him . Trees waves their hands and play with rays. 
He will shine for them.
And what I give to him ?
I just take light from him to hide my darkness. 
I want to hold him. I don’t sing, I don’t play music . 
 
Am I selfish ?
I think , I am.
Why I’m not understanding his feelings ? because he is not sharing with me.
I just can ask him , but cannot read his heart. He just gives a smile .. but don’t tell anything.
I know,  he has lot of thoughts. Some for me and some for others .   I want him to share his thoughts with me . 
 
I love him very much , but he don’t know this. 
Does he know ? I think Yes.  I shown my love many times.
But he still not turning towards me …..
Oh yes .. He is precious for me .. but I’m not important for him.
I want to become important for him , but he don’t tell me how.  
 
He might be thinking,  I try to hold him, because I need him.
But this is not true.  I want to hold him, because I love him.
I love him ,  I love  and I really love him.
But how should I tell him ?
Even if I tell , will he able to listen among song of Birds and music of River ?
If I write it on earth, will he read  in between dancing Trees ?
 
I’ll tell , even if he listen me or not.   I’ll write it, even he reads or not.
Someday, he would realize my love and will shine for me.
Till that time,  I’m waiting for him … waiting for him.
 
Maybe , . He is not willing to shine for me.
He shine sometimes, as a courtesy to me . But not because, he loves me.
And I’m in so love with him, I don’t eat , when he do not come.
I don’t  sleep,  because he is not there. 
Does he know that ? Does he care about that ?  I think yes.  
 
O my Sun,
I want you to be with me … most of the time , all the time.
I can wait till the time you think, But you are busy, shining for Tree , Bird and River. when would you think about me ?
You think my love as spontaneous and under pressure of darkness.  I may get burn, going with you.
Just stay with me for some time.
You will understand  how I feel, when  you are with me. I love you so much,  I want to live with you.
 
O my Sun,
What I need, is just some time from you.  Be with me  full day.
Shine for others , some other day.
Let me tell you what I feel and  you open your heart and tell me everything.
 
O my Sun,
I want to read your heart,  
If you care for me ,  you tell me ,
what should I do ?  what should I do ?
 
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Best Saving and Investments for Life

 INVESTMENT

We know about past , we live our present , and  we plan our  Future.   To realize the plan for future,  we save money  so as they available when required.   If we have enough money  for planned future , we just save them. But if  they are not enough, we plan to increase.   This makes  earning  as part of our future plans.

Other than basic needs of life, we spend our money , keeping  in mind.  What we are getting now  and how it may  impact  our future plans.   Every other spending needs a balance, to get proper value for present and good impact in future .

 If we can’t keep balance , should we give more importance to present  ? or to  Future ?  This is matter of personal choice.  But I would say,  we should give more importance to future.   We just know our future  plans,  but not the future itself.  Future is always full of surprises.   We  should give good importance to Future ,  to keep ourselves ready for any surprise.

 As soon as  we start thinking and planning about future, we starts thinking about earning  and savings.  Saving is not just keeping extra money safe, but may  require to control our expenses as well.  Saving money is not available for present, we cannot  use that, and we consider that almost like nil.  But we are assured that when we need in future, it will be with us.

Basic meaning of investment is “to  save now, for better returns in future “ .    Investor considers  4 points, before any investment. 

·         What he has to save now.

·         What he can save now

·         When would be return

·         What would be return

For most of the investors, most important point is “ What would be return” .  This means, if  he gets better returns, he can compromise with other 3 factors.  For good return, he can   pay more; he can cut down other expense  to put more in investment   and he will wait for long time.  

Some of the investments looks very attractive  and promising for  future , but end up with negative returns in future.  We need to be very careful about such investments. Because these not only consumes our saving, but  our future plans as well.   People who thinks less about future or  living more in presence, end up losing  with such investments. 

Also,  a good investor live is present in such a way that it does not impact negative on the future plans.  Off course, it requires lot of compromises, but  these compromises are best investments for future.

REAL INVESTMENT FOR LIFE

Money is not the only  thing we need for our future plans.  Our future plan is built around “us”.  What I meant by “us” here  is “myself and people around me” or “ you and people around you”. So other most important  part of future plans is “People” and relations.

We could find all sort of people around us. Some people, we just know them; some people we  like,  some we don’t like; some people we hate and some we don’t hate.   Some people we love and some we don’t love; some people we care for and some we don’t care. some who know us ; some who like us  and some who don’t like us;  some who loves us and some don’t love us; Some care for us  and some who don’t care.

May be, some more type of people around us, linked directly or indirectly , becomes part of our future plans.   We can compare our relations with these people, in terms of Saving and Investments.

When we are happy and enjoying the fun, we can find a lot people around us.  They  would be coming along with us, for party, movie, tracking , disco, nightclub , shopping or elsewhere we get fun. We also like their company , as we are enjoying  all these fun.  If we live in present  and don’t think about our future and plans, we like company  of these fun loving people.  They please us  and we please them.  Till the time fun goes on, no one talks about your pain,  and not bother to read your heart and emotions. 

We get lost in world of this fun and this becomes part of our life.  And some times , we don’t even know that it may impact negatively on our futures and plans,  if we are NOT ready to compromise these fun.   As I  believe,  future is always full of surprises and when it comes with some down surprises ,  fun loving people would always be  gone.  

 

We also find some people, those who are not  with us for fun, but they are always available when we need them or we are alone and sad.   We love them or not, they love us. We care or not , they care us very much.   They comes to help us, whether  we need help or not.   Mostly, we ignore such people or don’t even look for them even they are around us,  till the time we are part of fun loving life.  And once we addicted to  fun life, we keep on ignoring them and at some point of time we lose them.  But these people never leaves you , as they love and care for you.  But we cannot afford to lose them , they are the real  SAVING of life, as they would be available when you need . 

 If these type of people are very close to us, they may appear as possessive. But they might be caring or loving us so much, they cannot see you getting in any trouble and try to control your life.  So we should not ignore this, but we should enjoy the love hidden in this possessiveness, Just like swan drinks pure milk, leaving behind mixed water.

Who are these people .. these could be our friend, our relative or anyone around us.   We need to find these people and spend time with them to save our relations as this would be best investment for long term.

Yes,  it is an  Investment,  because to  get returns in long term, we need to save/cut down our fun from present life.   We need to think and decide , which of our current activities/current relations  may impact our future . 

We might be having many friends around us. But only  a few TRUE friends,  for whom we should invest our relations for Future.  And be sure.. this investment never give negative return.

Remember, a TRUE friend is not the one we love most. But one who love us most.  Find a TRUE friend .. and live happy ever.

 

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